vulnerability.

They say being vulnerable heals, so here's something I want to be vulnerable about...

As a growing Christian, I've struggled with perfectionism. The insatiable urge to want to get everything right. And I've fallen short a couple of times.

The one that almost wrecked me completely was falling into sexual immorality. Not sex, but the things around it. And you bet I felt disgusted with myself.

It made me feel unqualified. Far worse, the repercussions I faced for my shortcomings weren't funny at all. I'm not going to lie, it made me doubt God's love for me for a while. And honestly, sometimes I still doubt it.

I was afraid. I still am.

I want to run, yet I know I need to stay. Stay in the secret place with my Father, so my soul may find rest in Him.

So that's what I'm doing.

I no longer want to be bound by fear.

So Lord, I ask that You set me free from every guilt and fear and make me whole again.

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  1. AnonymousSeptember 16, 2026 at 9:29 AM

    This is true, I'm currently struggling with perfectionism and being unduly drawn to people of the opposite sex.I feel guilty alot but I know that God loves me and I don't want to disappoint Him.
    Oh God please help your daughter.

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  2. AuthorSeptember 16, 2026 at 12:29 PM

    I completely get you. Remember Romans 8:38-39❤️

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